Friday, 24 March 2017

#Ask Rae


This year is going to be a year of firsts. I had been sitting on the idea of starting a podcast for months and finally decided to give it a go!

I intend to speak about the Word of God and I hope to help my fellow sisters in Christ. Having said that I will be a series called #AskRae if you are a woman of God with a question on faith, womanhood or anything  feel free to send me an email ( or use the hash tag #AskRae via twitter.  You could also ask an anonymous question via I hope to answer your questions  via podcast. (Please note some questions I may not answer)

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Friday, 10 March 2017

Proverbs 31 Woman

A Virtuous Woman 

Seeing as the month of March celebrates women, I thought it befitting that I create a post where we outline the characteristic of a virtuous women.  The content of this post will be taken from Proverbs 31: 10-31. In this post I will be outlining some of the attributes of a virtuous women and how we can aspire to such title.

Who can find a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies.
The heart of her husband doth safely trust in her, so that he shall have no need of spoil.
She will do him good and not evil all the days of her life.
She seeketh wool, and flax, and worketh willingly with her hands.
She is like the merchants' ships; she bringeth her food from afar.
She riseth also while it is yet night, and giveth meat to her household, and a portion to her maidens.

We can see that such a women is rare as God says her value surpasses precious jewels.  In proverbs 19:7 is mentions a prudent wife comes from the Lord, this woman is not ordinary and from the proceeding verses we see why she is not.

Her husband trusts the woman referenced, I want to note that one can aspire to becoming such a woman without a husband. I would even suggested that it is imperative that before a women considers marriage that she has some of these attributes mentioned in the chapter. 

She does her husband good and not evil all the days of her life. What does it mean to do good? Waggoner an Adventist pioneer states that doing good or the act of being good is to show great levels of benevolence. This woman is selfless, compassionate and charitable. Altruism should be part of the Christian; the Lord instructed his disciples that if they wanted to be first they had to be servants for all.  Mark 9:35 (KJV)
35 And he sat down, and called the twelve, and saith unto them, If any man desire to be first, the same shall be last of all, and servant of all. The life of Christ was a life of service in the same respect we too are to service others. There is a whole book on Christian Service I really encourage you to read it.

Verses 13- 15 speak on the work ethic of this rare jewel. She works hard with her hands, goes far to find the best and wakes up earlier to work to look after her household. Such woman understands the danger of idleness and the need to be diligent in all aspects of her life. Proverbs 24:33-34 (KJV)
33 Yet a little sleep, a little slumber, a little folding of the hands to sleep:
34 So shall thy poverty come as one that travelleth; and thy want as an armed man.

2 Thessalonians 3:10 (KJV)
10 For even when we were with you, this we commanded you, that if any would not work, neither should he eat.

The above Bible texts illustrate what one will occur if they are lazy.  Laziness will result in being without. I am aware that being without is not always a result of laziness but a result of the social imbalances that profit from impoverishing certain demographics. This post is not looking at such, for post on more social issues click here and here.

“Action, action, is seen pervading the whole living machinery. And man, his mind and body created in God's similitude, must be active in order to fill his appointed place. He is not to be idle. Idleness is sin.” CET 75.3

The prophet of the Lord has rightly mentioned that idleness is sin! Wow. Imagine if we saw the serious of having a poor work ethic how many of us would buckle up.

How can I improve my time? How can I stop being so idle? If we look at the fifteenth verse it can be noted that the woman gets up whilst it’s still night. Get up early! I have found when I get up early I feel more productive. I get the sense that a virtuous woman is well organised. How can we adopt such? Write achievable goals daily. This helps with time management as well as organisation.

Speaking of time management I saw a tweet were it spoke on the misuse of social media. It did so in a comedic manner, however it really struck a cord with me and made me ponder on how I need to use my time online wisely. A virtuous woman would not squander her time but maximize it to some extent I am trying to do this here.  How do you manage your time? Feel free to comment below.

 16 She considereth a field, and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.
17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.
20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

In the sixteenth verse we see what I believe to be the entrepreneurial aspect of a virtuous women. Those who may be familiar with the developing world may know for a woman to buy land is revolutionary even in the twenty first century. The latter part of the verse also notes that the women in the text makes her own income “and buyeth it: with the fruit of her hands she planteth a vineyard.” Again the diligence of the type of woman is echoed. This verse also dislodges some of the erroneous ideas about women and mirrors how this woman did not follow the status quo.  

The home is a women’s first priority however this does not mean a women should not aspire to be independent in all areas including when it comes to economy. “Is [she] an economist, or will she, if married, not only use all her own earnings, but all of yours to gratify a vanity, a love of appearance? Are her principles correct in this direction? Has she anything now to depend upon? ... I know that to the mind of a man infatuated with love and thoughts of marriage these questions will be brushed away as though they were of no consequence. But these things should be duly considered, for they have a bearing upon your future life....” AH 46.2

The portion of text is in reference of things to consider when looking for a wife. Is she an economist…? An economist thinks before they make a purchase or an investment. We see a similar reference in verse sixteen. A virtuous woman is one that fugal when it comes to economy. How can we become economist?

Set a weekly budget, each month save some of your income and lastly when out shopping ask yourself do I x amount need this (Do I £30 need this jacket)?

17 She girdeth her loins with strength, and strengtheneth her arms.
18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.
19 She layeth her hands to the spindle, and her hands hold the distaff.

Both verse seventeen and nineteen denote a diligent work ethic, I want to focus on verse eighteen in particular.  18 She perceiveth that her merchandise is good: her candle goeth not out by night.” She assume what she is selling is good. I love this section of the verse as it connotes such a woman does not put a low estimate upon herself!

This world often through the use of media platforms, retarded regulations and theories have caused women to put such a low estimate upon themselves. This is contradictory to the Word of God!  Psalm 139:14 (KJV)
14 I will praise thee; for I am fearfully and wonderfully made: marvellous are thy works; and that my soul knoweth right well.”

The Lord is disappointed when His people place a low estimate upon themselves. He desires His chosen heritage to value themselves according to the price He has placed upon them. God wanted them, else He would not have sent His Son on such an expensive errand to redeem them. He has a use for them, and He is well pleased when they make the very highest demands upon Him, that they may glorify His name. They may expect large things if they have faith in His promises. DA 668.1

Those of use aspiring to be like such women need to stop putting a low estimate upon ourselves. Let us believe that we can bring something to the table. God has mentioned that we are to expect large things if we have faith in His promises

20 She stretcheth out her hand to the poor; yea, she reacheth forth her hands to the needy.

Not only is this woman good with money she ensures she gives a portion of what she makes to the poor and needy. Again we see the act of benevolence towards others.  Looking after the poor and needy is vital for the Christian, poverty will always be a part of the make up of this world.

Mark 14:7 (KJV) For ye have the poor with you always, and whensoever ye will ye may do them good: but me ye have not always.”

“Although God had promised greatly to bless His people, it was not His design that poverty should be wholly unknown among them. He declared that the poor should never cease out of the land. There would ever be those among His people who would call into exercise their sympathy, tenderness, and benevolence.” PP 530.3

With this in mind we must find ways to help the poor. I am conducting a mission trip to Senegal where I hope to put the latter into practice. However helping the poor and the needy does not mean we are to fly to a foreign land to do so, we could do things where we are. For example we can pray, donate to charity or help with feeding the homeless.

Look out for part two
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Thursday, 2 March 2017

My Hair Journey

My Hair Journey 
March 2016 

Some of my family, friends and peers often ask about what I do to my hair. I will be conducting a series where I focus on my hair. In post this I will discuss my hair journey.  

Around 2010 I had found the YouTube hair world. My life has never been the same since. This is not a hyperbole; the decision to care for my hair came about from bingeing on videos that spoke on hair care. I then decided that I too wanted to embark on a heath hair journey. 

I began to look after my relaxed hair and made many gains that I had not been able to achieve when it came to my hair. 

In 2012 my friend mentioned that she wanted to go Natural. I wasn't to fond of the idea. My sisters also had mentioned wanting to go natural I really discouraged the idea. In retrospect I can't understand why I was so against the idea of embracing my natural hair. Fast ward some months I was at a gathering with some peers and announced that I was going to grow out my Afro. 5 years later here we are. 

I have been natural for 5 years stay tuned for hair update in upcoming post). I began transition to natural in January 2012 and big chopped May 2013. It was honestly one of the best decisions I have made I my adult life. 

I recall being a teenager and my dad would often encouraged my sisters and I to go natural. This was not only in reference to how we wore our hair but was to do with make up also. My dad's main argument was "when you meet your husband you want them to see the real you". My dad would also mention the damaging aspect of hair "attachments”. We would often laugh but what he said was very true. Many in their teens are already suffering from traction alopecia due to excess pulling from hair extensions. 

One of my reasons for going natural  was because if I was to have children I would ensure they kept their hair in its natural state. I did not want to appear as a hypocrite when it came to hair.

The journey so far as been rather successful, however, I see the need to re-transitionto healthier hair. I had a setback in the Crown of my hair (I may do a post on this) 

For this series I will be speaking on methods that have helped me to reach such hair length. I hope to encourage you to incorporate these methods  into your hair journey as well as to share some tips that you have found helpful on your hair journey, If you have any hair questions leave them in the comments below or send an email.

Happy Hair Journey  (HHJ) 
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Tuesday, 14 February 2017

What is Love?

What is Love? 

I tend to find the answer to life’s questions written in the Word of God. This should not be any different when it comes to the understanding of love. The world gives and promotes a superficial idea of love, where lust is often regarded as love. Love is not based on impulse but principle. Love is not temporary or based on feeling it is a continuous act.

The topic of love cannot be exhausted. There are different aspects to this one entity and all theses variances make up or at least contribute to understanding what constitutes love.

First Corinthians 13 is chapter where apostle Paul outlines the formulae of love. (In the King James version of the Bible the word love is referred to as charity but for the purpose of this article I will be using the word love that is found in other Bible versions)   

1 Corinthians 13King James Version (KJV)
13 Though I speak with the tongues of men and of angels, and have not charity, I am become as sounding brass, or a tinkling cymbal.
And though I have the gift of prophecy, and understand all mysteries, and all knowledge; and though I have all faith, so that I could remove mountains, and have not charity, I am nothing.
And though I bestow all my goods to feed the poor, and though I give my body to be burned, and have not charity, it profiteth me nothing.
Charity suffereth long, and is kind; charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,
Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;
Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;
Beareth all things, believeth all things, hopeth all things, endureth all things.
Charity never faileth: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
For we know in part, and we prophesy in part.
10 But when that which is perfect is come, then that which is in part shall be done away.
11 When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.
12 For now we see through a glass, darkly; but then face to face: now I know in part; but then shall I know even as also I am known.
13 And now abideth faith, hope, charity, these three; but the greatest of these is charity.

“The Lord desires me to call the attention of His people to the thirteenth chapter of 1 Corinthians. Read this chapter every day, and from it obtain comfort and strength. Learn from it the value that God places on sanctified heaven-born love, and let the lesson that it teaches come home to your hearts. Learn that Christ-like love is of heavenly birth, and that without it all other qualifications are worthless.” (Review and Herald, July 21, 1904)

By beholding we become changed. In reading about true love from the Word of God we better understand the topic and how we are to apply it to our daily lives. In this article I will be focusing on verses four to seven. Theses portion of the texts reflects the characteristics of love. As I outline each I will draw examples from Christ and also how we too can excersise love each day.

The ministry of Christ embodies true love, during is first advent he was continuously tempted, provoked and critiqued yet no guile was found in his mouth  (1 Peter 2:22)
 Charity suffereth long, and is kind;

During the course of Christ ministry, it is recorded that the Pharisees and Saudcees would often tempt or want to inflict harm upon Jesus. Yet he never once retilated

Luke 4:28-29King James Version (KJV)
28 And all they in the synagogue, when they heard these things, were filled with wrath,
29 And rose up, and thrust him out of the city, and led him unto the brow of the hill whereon their city was built, that they might cast him down headlong.

1 Peter 2:23King James Version (KJV)
23 Who, when he was reviled, reviled not again; when he suffered, he threatened not; but committed himself to him that judgeth righteously:

Luke 6:35King James Version (KJV)
35 But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest: for he is kind unto the unthankful and to the evil.

The first out of the three text I have shared above is speaks of a time when the Jewish leaders wanted to kill Christ “that they might cast him down headlong.” The second verse is an account from the book of Peter where it is outlined that Christ never threatened those who caused him harm. The final verse is an instruction from Christ telling us the children of God are kind towards the unthankful and those who are evil. Christ showed the latter towards those who sort out to destroy him and in like manner we are to do the same.

When I first came across Luke 6:35 I found it numbing, being British we often take our please and thank “yous” very seriously and are offended if one does not offer a some kind gratitude. The latter is merely a form of pride, wanting to be recognised for doing something good. Rather than expecting an acknowledgement for an act of kindness, let us regard kindness as a duty that does not need acknowledgement.

charity envieth not; charity vaunteth not itself, is not puffed up,

Philippians 2: 5-9 King James Version (KJV)
Let this mind be in you, which was also in Christ Jesus:
Who, being in the form of God, thought it not robbery to be equal with God:
But made himself of no reputation, and took upon him the form of a servant, and was made in the likeness of men:
And being found in fashion as a man, he humbled himself, and became obedient unto death, even the death of the cross.
Wherefore God also hath highly exalted him, and given him a name which is above every name:

Jesus being equal to God did not envy God he left his heavenly kingdom and decided to take on the form of humanity. Due to such graceful act God exalts Jesus Christ above every other name.

Verse 6 of 1 Corthinians mentions that love does not envy nor does it showcase pride or arrogance.  The Lord tells us in Luke 6:35 “35 But love ye your enemies, and do good, and lend, hoping for nothing again; and your reward shall be great, and ye shall be the children of the Highest”

Mark 9:35King James Version (KJV)
35 And he sat down, and called the twelve, and saith unto them, If any man desire to be first, the same shall be last of all, and servant of all.
Love involves a willingness to put others before you and not expect any from of praise for doing so. In a world that has become obsessed with recognition for example Facebook like, retweets, blog shares, it may be difficult to do things without applauds. How can we get to a point where we do not see the need for appreciation? We can pray for a more humble heart and to intentional put others before ourselves.

My youngest sister sometimes helps with inputting closed captions/ subtitles on YouTube videos. When she has made me aware of this I asked her, “do you get paid ?” She said no. She enjoys doing so as it helps those who are deaf or heard of hearing enjoy the video. What humility!

Doth not behave itself unseemly, seeketh not her own, is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;

The word unseemly means unflattering, hideous ect. Love does not behave in an unflattering manner. There is an attraction when one exhibits the type of love spoken of in the Bible.  Love must be flattering and has an elegance Love is not fueled with cheesy pick up lines.

Once again the themes of humility and selflessness can be seen in this verse, “seeketh not her own”. As these themes are repeated there is an emphasis on ensuring that we understand that love is selfless and humble. If we profess to love someone or vice versa and the former and the latter is lacking, then there seems to be a misunderstanding of what love is.  “Amazing love! How can it be that thou, my God, shouldst die for me?” This line of from one of my favourite hymns, it speaks on the selflessness of Christ’s love. Christ left his heavenly abode to dwell with us and become a ransom for you and me. Christ did not think of himself but his creation.

 “[Love] is not easily provoked, thinketh no evil;” anger and evil are not example of love the opposite of love is evil. How can we who declare to be children of God speak of love and showcase evil?

Matthew 5:39-48King James Version (KJV)
38 Ye have heard that it hath been said, An eye for an eye, and a tooth for a tooth:
39 But I say unto you, That ye resist not evil: but whosoever shall smite thee on thy right cheek, turn to him the other also.
40 And if any man will sue thee at the law, and take away thy coat, let him have thy cloak also.

If wrong is done to us, it is not our place to retaliate 
1 Peter 3:9King James Version (KJV)
Not rendering evil for evil, or railing for railing: but contrariwise blessing; knowing that ye are thereunto called, that ye should inherit a blessing.

Romans 12:21“Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.”

In repaying evil with evil what do we gain? We become just as ‘bad’ as the person or people who have committed the offence.
“Under a storm of stinging, faultfinding words, keep the mind stayed upon the word of God. Let mind and heart be stored with God's promises. If you are ill-treated or wrongfully accused, instead of returning an angry answer, repeat to yourself the precious promises:
“Be not overcome of evil, but overcome evil with good.” Romans 12:21.”

Rejoiceth not in iniquity, but rejoiceth in the truth;

God hates sin he cannot not stay where sin was, for his holiness would consume the appearance of sin “Hebrews 12:29King James Version (KJV)
29 For our God is a consuming fire.”

 When Christ came to earth we see the same, hatred of sin to the point Christ weeps over the destruction that was to appear over the children of Israel due to their sin. 

Luke 19:41-44 King James Version (KJV)
41 And when he was come near, he beheld the city, and wept over it,
42 Saying, If thou hadst known, even thou, at least in this thy day, the things which belong unto thy peace! but now they are hid from thine eyes.
43 For the days shall come upon thee, that thine enemies shall cast a trench about thee, and compass thee round, and keep thee in on every side,
44 And shall lay thee even with the ground, and thy children within thee; and they shall not leave in thee one stone upon another; because thou knewest not the time of thy visitation.

Christ also rebukes and chastens us when we fall into sin, he sends the Holy Spirit to convict us. “As many as I love, I rebuke and chasten: be zealous therefore, and repent.” Revelation 3:19. However we must choose to listen to the convictions that the Lord God sends to us, pray to do the desire of the Lord God.

In conclusion, from looking at the three verses within 1 Corinthians 13 we can see that Love is not an irrational emotion but one that must promote humanity, despises evil, is selfless. These practices are not to be a one off, but are in fact continual.

References Ministry of Healing:

MH 486.2